I have done a lot of wrongdoings to myself and I have been mad at myself for too long😫. I ridiculed myself by belittling my drive to succeed, I compared my dignity to lust, I looked down at my smartness because the world told me I don't deserve the best😭, I even slammed the door at my will for excellence, I condemned my beauty and neglected my will to standout, I gave up on myself at the slightest challenge I failed to defeat, I shut my heart to love because people neglected my pure feelings of love😩. I made choices that made me dwell in regrets😭. I have been ashamed of who I am and what I have become, I have lost my smile, where do I start from😭? How can I forgive myself🙈? When will I ever forgive myself?😢 The most important phase of self-growth is forgiveness. Forgiveness is the key to recognizing how precious you are. Forgiveness is love. Why are you still dwelling in the shade of past regrets? Why are you still bitter about the wrong choices you made? When ar...

Obstacles are put in our way to see if what we want is worth fighting for. Obstacles are the tests of your goal and focus. The obstacle doesn't build you, it reveals you and your interest. However, many people fail because they focus on their obstacles. We fail not because of loss of purpose but because of the loss value of our goal. We fail when our goal is not the primary focus of our devotion. In the word of Henry Ford, "Obstacles are what you see when you take your eyes off the goal". When our focus is full of obstacles, our mouth is full of excuses. Excuses are disoriented confessions. The confession that doesn't align with the originality of goals. Spending your today complaining about yesterday won't make tomorrow better. Ever wondered why some people can spend 7-9 years pursuing admission after Medicine, it is because they don't see their growing age, classmates, repeating Jamb as an obstacle, what they see, rather, is the end in perspective. T...

There is an Alternative. Cynthia was heartbroken as she had been sure it was God that led Mike to her. He had proposed after she sought the Lord's face in fasting and prayer for a life partner. That was until a few months back when Mike called her and broke off their engagement! Have you ever lost something you were absolutely sure God wanted you to have? A job? A business deal? A ministry opportunity? Elijah was told by God to go and hide by Brook Cherith to escape the famine in the land. (Ref: 1Kg.17). "And it shall be that you shall drink from the brook, and I have commanded the ravens to feed you there"vs4 It was God that led Elijah to the brook to escape the famine. You would have thought the brook would be there for as long as Elijah wanted or needed it. But the brook dried up(vs7)! Can God lead anyone into anything that works for a while and afterward refuses to? Absolutely! Why? He has provided an alternative! God will not have you stuck with 'the goo...

Job seekers do not be troubled. Because you didn't get that offer doesn't make you less. Always remember, not everyone will see your value. Irrespective of this, don't give up. I was once like this in 2016-2017. I was troubled. I wasn't getting any job offer. The ones I got, I didn't make it through. I became scared of the future. What awaits me? vs What becomes of me? Fear of the future ate deep into my heart. What if you take it one step at a time? Perhaps you could live each day as it comes. No one is too wise to be certain of what will happen in the next few minutes. We can only make predictions/assumptions. But one thing is certain, we can live in the moment. That could be all you've got. Instead of beating yourself down by what hasn't happened, Why not defeat the moment? Then go further from there. I have come to a point where I want to live by the moment. Rather than getting soaked in the fear of what may. Because fear is fal...

One cold night, a billionaire met an old poor man outside. He asked him "Don't you feel cold being outside, and not wearing any coat?" The old man replied, "I don't have it but I got used to that." The billionaire replied, "wait for me, I will enter my house now and bring you one." The poor man got so happy and said he will wait for him. The billionaire entered his house and got busy there and forgot the poor man. In the morning he remembered that poor old man and he went out to search for him but he found him dead because of cold with a NOTE: "When I didn't have any warm clothes, I had the power to fight the cold because I was used to that. But when you promised to help me, I got attached to your promise and that took my power of resisting". MORAL: "Don't promise anything if you can't keep your promise. It might not mean anything to you, But it could mean everything to someone else" Anonymous. PS: ...

Just so you know: Nagging your friend "Have you got a job" is kinda awkward; awkward like asking someone "Don't you have kids" "Aren't you married yet". Yes, it can be disheartening & depressing! For them telling you "No" every time you throw up such question at them can predispose them to think they are failures, and unknowingly lead them into despair. You can never wish a difficult moment away with your nagging, it takes proactive sets to draw up a solution. If it's truly your intention to show you care via that, then I say the approach is a misplaced priority you must set right. It is sheer ignorance adding insult to their injury in the name of showing care. I consider it helping your friend with job adverts, career advice, networks, referrals or CV review far more reasonable than your incessant misnomer question. What does doing that mean to them? It tells them as much job position you prescribe to them, the more they beli...

It is true. You should thank those who say 'No' to you, for they only teach you how to do it yourself. Being conditioned to think you always have someone to help you out does more harm than good. It doesn't only weaken your cerebral capacity to think, diminish your creativity but it also ensures the inferiority complex. I reached out a reckoned force on Twitter for an answer to a question that has bothered me. Waited for days but got no reply from him to the reason best known to him. I know the hard feeling and worrying about it won't provide me the needed answers, thus I quickly form a partnership with the search engine. Our partnership was wow. Got more than what I expected/wanted. I was thought struck and said to myself, even if the Twitter guy had answered my question, he could not have given a more detailed answer than what my online pal did. But you will wonder, why I didn't use the search engine in the first place; this leads to another harm of dep...

I knew already he would win the role; I stand no chance against him. He came into the reception looking like Dangote’s firstborn. A shiny suit, well ironed and his tie properly placed. He has a very strong aura and presence with a deep charisma. The aroma from his deodorant would get you sniffing loud. He entered the reception and engaged me in a discussion immediately. From his voice, I could sense he had spent some reasonable years in “The Abroad”. He introduced himself and we started talking, damn! the guy is really good, I said within myself. He was called into the interview room first even though I got there before him (maybe because I wasn’t wearing a shiny suit). It took longer than expected and I thought maybe they were signing his offer letter already. Should I kuku be going to my house jejely? I sat down patiently waiting for his interview to end, believe me it took forever. But at last, he stepped out looking very calm. He asked if it’s okay to wait so we could roll o...

They may have stolen our Common Wealth, they cannot steal our Common Sense. In a sane democratic setting, the government should fear the people (electorates), but the otherwise is obtainable in Nigeria. If you must canvass for people's votes, you must show them why you should earn it. No excuse whatsoever is justifiable by anyone to circumvent being present to sell its manifestoes in a debate. Debate helps to calibrate the amount of information, technical know-how, and solutions a candidate has to the socio-economic hardship that stares people in the face. Evading or missing out in a debate not only shows intellectually and political will dryness of the candidate and by extension his moribund supporters, but it also connotes a deliberate disdainful, despicable, contemptuous, and derogatory attitude to the people you want to govern. If a candidate cannot oblige and honor the call of the populace for a debate, what's the probability that the candidate will listen to the yearn...

10 years Challenge: Core Lessons (1) Your past/struggle/shortcomings/failure becomes inconsequential when you're successful/hit limelight. How easy do you think it was for Einstein to boldly disclose he failed 1000 times before the invention of electricity. It was very easy; his failed attempts even made his success story more intriguing. Ever have I seen people who delight in showing their humble beginnings; how they hawked, worked, hustled, and toiled their way to breakthrough. Those pictures tell it all. People will only remember your home runs when you become a success. You may not be proud or people may disdain you for your hustle now, don't be deterred, a time comes when it all becomes a time of the past that even you will revel sharing them without being asked. (2) We don't inspire anyone by being perfect. We inspire by how we deal with our imperfections. The greatest inspection drawn from this challenge emanates from people with the most humiliating, wretched, a...