Misplaced Priority
Just so you know:
Nagging your friend "Have you got a job" is kinda awkward; awkward like asking someone "Don't you have kids" "Aren't you married yet". Yes, it can be disheartening & depressing! For them telling you "No" every time you throw up such question at them can predispose them to think they are failures, and unknowingly lead them into despair. You can never wish a difficult moment away with your nagging, it takes proactive sets to draw up a solution.
If it's truly your intention to show you care via that, then I say the approach is a misplaced priority you must set right. It is sheer ignorance adding insult to their injury in the name of showing care. I consider it helping your friend with job adverts, career advice, networks, referrals or CV review far more reasonable than your incessant misnomer question. What does doing that mean to them? It tells them as much job position you prescribe to them, the more they believe you repose in them the confidence that they are fit and capable to win the job. Everyone is a solution to a particular problem, you might just be the solution your friend needs now.
Obviously, few deliberately ask the question to jeer their friend on hearing the reply "NO", so they can laugh them to stupor. That is terribly bad. Whatever you make happen to others, others will make happen to you. The fact is always that people don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. And if actions speak louder than words, then you must show them you care (helping), not tell them (nagging). We rise by lifting others.
Nagging your friend "Have you got a job" is kinda awkward; awkward like asking someone "Don't you have kids" "Aren't you married yet". Yes, it can be disheartening & depressing! For them telling you "No" every time you throw up such question at them can predispose them to think they are failures, and unknowingly lead them into despair. You can never wish a difficult moment away with your nagging, it takes proactive sets to draw up a solution.
If it's truly your intention to show you care via that, then I say the approach is a misplaced priority you must set right. It is sheer ignorance adding insult to their injury in the name of showing care. I consider it helping your friend with job adverts, career advice, networks, referrals or CV review far more reasonable than your incessant misnomer question. What does doing that mean to them? It tells them as much job position you prescribe to them, the more they believe you repose in them the confidence that they are fit and capable to win the job. Everyone is a solution to a particular problem, you might just be the solution your friend needs now.
Obviously, few deliberately ask the question to jeer their friend on hearing the reply "NO", so they can laugh them to stupor. That is terribly bad. Whatever you make happen to others, others will make happen to you. The fact is always that people don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. And if actions speak louder than words, then you must show them you care (helping), not tell them (nagging). We rise by lifting others.
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