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She Left

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I remember being in a relationship with this amazing young woman. My love for her was such that when she told me she wasn't willing to marry a pastor, I was ready to jettison my calling for her! One beautiful morning a call to my mobile phone awakened me. It was from this amazing lady. The call was to the effect that she would like to quit the relationship. The only thing I requested was the return of my engagement ring. I'll like you to know that people walking away from your life can also constitute a favour too just as people can also walk into your life with opportunities and open doors. It was when Lot walked away from Abraham that God started speaking to him again(Gen. 13:14). Left to Abraham, he would have wanted lot with him forever! It is instructive what Apostle John has to say on this: "They went out from us, but they did not really belong to us. For if they had belonged to us, they would have remained with us; but their going showed that none of th...

Change

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"Change" is not only a constant thing, but it is also the secret to survive in today's world. "Sometimes ago like in the 1960s, If you speak English you are regarded as likely to succeed. People queued up to access you. Then It moved. If you have a university degree. Wow, then that was hotcakes! Suddenly University degree became sachet water. Then it moved to finish with Upper and above. In fact, my uncle called me to explain to me why 2.1 was the requirement for success. After this, it moved again It became what school did you finish? That uncle told me again how I must attend UNILAG. He said they had an interview in his office, where they said candidates that didn't attend Federal University to stand up and go home. Hmmm! What a wicked selection process, but that is life. Then after I graduated it moved again. It's now the skills you have. What can you do? This is where most people are at now. But let me tell you the truth...It has mov...

Motivation

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You cannot Save a Man for Himself As the remaining days of this year roll by, wouldn't you rather indulge me to bring to the fore this salient issue? I've taken cognizance that a good chunk of people listen to/have listened to umpteen number of motivational talks/speakers but never seem to get something going. In their last resort, calling motivation speakers liars/thieves and all sorts of names you could think of is a face-saving option. Why? The reason you listen to pep talks over and over again without being charged to drive home your wants/desires is that you relinquish your job duty. You're likely to be impeached for the negligence of duty. No amount of motivational talks can motivate/influence you. Never! Influencing others is more difficult than brain surgery. It doesn't matter how powerful/spell-bounding the written/spoken word is, it remains impotent until you act upon it. Motivational talks are actually to help you self motivate. The Motivation Myth...

Understanding

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What is Understanding? Understanding simply means going under to know what makes something to stand. What actually made #AnthonyJoshua stood/won the rematch? It was because he understood something. He understood that success is not final, and failure is not fatal. On his defeat to Ruiz in June, he humbly acknowledged he lost due to shortfalls he himself admitted to and has since then been preparing for a resurgence. His defeat exposed his lacuna, and he consistently practiced to remedy it that he was so sure he would have his revenge. A duel won as promised is not a fluke: it is a product of determination, hard work & expectation. Then why are you contemplating giving up on your first defeat? You need to understand that failure is not a death sentence. Someone said if you're not failing that shows you're not even trying. In life, you will fail at something. And understand that you are not a failure when you fail to meet an expectation, you have only discovered...

Skills Part 2

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I have to tell you about my experience yesterday at an event I was asked to speak at. My topic was on Understanding Your Career Trajectory, Beyond Your Degree My talk was about 30 minutes and I took about 15 minutes of questions. Because I had another appointment, I had to leave quickly.  When I was leaving, a young man followed me. He had a career dilemma he needed me to help him solve. You know I have mentioned how much I love solving problems, so as it were, he immediately had my full attention. By now, he was escorting me out of the building, a few steps later, we were waiting for the elevator. I was eager to start our coaching conversation, so I prompted him to go ahead, I asked, 'so what do you do?' He introduced himself, he said he ran his own business, that he was into technology, software development to be precise. Then he added, 'I am 24 years old.' I immediately wanted to steal his youth. Remembering myself at 24, I was full of admiration. ...

Skills

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Have you ever sojourned to a wonderland? This thing called "skills" will take you there. It is a bundle of amazement. It is everyone's number one asset. When you are bereft of it, you have no asset. It is the 21st Century most sought-after tangible and intangible assets. Little wonder, firms/organizations/companies jostle for it. Skill is not just knowledge because knowledge is just certification. Skill is a demonstrated mastery. It is the praticalisation of theory. That is what makes your "impossibles" someone's "possibles". It is the distinction between novice and expert. Having it or in the dearth of it dictates successes and failures respectively. It makes a million out of a paltry. It turns the once rejected stone into a cornerstone. Just like a talent, it paves the way for the owner. Skills bring relevance. It is a principal thing, in all thy doings get skilled. What are you sk...

Genius

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You own a genius. You were born believing you could be anything, do anything, and have anything. In fact, every child is born with a genetically implanted believe they are a genius. However, we doubt our ingenuity because we feel we are not good at everything. A genius should know everything, isn't it? This way of reasoning is nothing short of naivety; same way as Bill Gates, who said "I was so naive about different skill sets. I thought if somebody had a high IQ, they could be good at everything". Intelligence takes many different forms. It is not unidimensional. Your ingenuity has a niche, discover it. Some people are communication guru, some display genius in auto repair, some people ingenuity are in writing, oration, comedy, football, arts & craft, etc. “You are or become those things which you repeatedly do" Einstein. Discover your genius.

Quick Fixes

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Sometimes, life would dribble you anyhow. Make everything elusive, futile your efforts and crush your pursuit. To compound it, your travail moment will coincide with when your friends are making waves, leaving you with thoughts that you're useless. A scenario like when HIV suppresses one's immunity. Your hope will be dashed, it will sometimes go beyond dented. You will have free subscriptions to evil thoughts. And gradually, what you hitherto negate will arouse your appetite. Hoping for a solution, all that will materialize in your mind is to reach out to quick fixes. Quick fixes are answers. Quick fixes are instant solutions. Quick fixes are short term benefits or advantages but whatever resolves your situation but does not give character to your purpose or goal, has no virtue in it. Life is an album, you're only seeing a picture. There is no more to life than your present predicament. It is either you remain patient and allow other pages of the album to flip or wre...

Hustle

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It is not enough that someone is a doctor… We tell them to hustle. So they collaborate with merchants and sell your son’s kidney when he comes for a check-up. It is not enough that someone is a teacher… We shame them for earning a certain amount. So they intentionally deny your children a good education in the classroom, so that YOU can pay for private lessons and they (teachers) can make more money. It is not enough that he is your employee… You indirectly scoff at the idea of working-for-others, so these people steal from you… Because you are an asshole. It is not enough that you are a football coach… The culture of “hustle oo” in third-world countries will get to you and you ignore the ethics of your industry and ask for a bribe. It is not enough that you are a politician… Nigerians will mock you for driving a Peugeot, so you will do as others do: steal a billion naira and buy a yacht. It is not enough to be YOU in third-world societies… ...

The Entrepreneurship Myth

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"Entrepreneurship is the only way out of poverty" "You can't be rich and comfortable working for someone else" "Entrepreneurs rule the world" It is imperative for you to understand that as a Christian professional, you can't afford to be led by popular slogans, the wisdom or empty philosophies of men! Recently, I was taking a Bible study and a verse in Scripture struck me. "The Lord was with Joseph, and he was a successful man; and he was in the house of his master the Egyptian" Gen.39:2 How do you attach "successful" as a term to someone who is not just in the employ of another man but a slave?! Isn't that divergent to the messages being touted by the 'apostles' of entrepreneurship? It is this entrepreneurship bug that has bitten professionals that would have had great, successful and impactful careers as employees of organizations but have resigned because they want to have founders, ...